Inquiring Minds Want To Know
Ask and you shall receive… today’s post topic comes via Twitter from Lins610. Lins610 asks “I’d like to know if you have always had the “stay at home dad” in you or did you adapt?”
Great question because during my days leading up to the arrival of E, I had wondered what my feelings would be on the subject. I’ve always been able to get along with younger kids, not sure what it was but I’ve either been able to relate to them and they never really were scared of me. In fact, back in my middle school days I would volunteer to help with nursery during Sunday service at church. Obviously most of the girls would want to help, but I was one of the few boys that would want to as well. Those 3 and 4-year-old kids were a lot of fun.
Even into my high school years, while my nursery volunteering went away in order to give other kids a chance, I still found that I had an uncanny ability to get along with the younger crowd. When friends / cousins started having babies, I was never afraid or slow to want to hold or play with them. So I suppose it would just be a natural progression to enjoy a child of my own.
Now, getting back to the question at hand… have I always had the “stay at home dad” attitude or did I adapt? Well, leading up to E’s arrival, Kate and I had talked about it and I know I had made the statement that if we could swing it financially, I would be all about staying home and being a full-time house husband. Then, when being laid off back in October of 2009, I was essentially thrown into that role and I think I embraced it as much as I could thinking that it was only temporary until I could find new employment. Fast forward almost a year and a half and I’m still at home, raising E, doing my best to keep a little house, maintain my grades as a part-time college student, and still be as supportive of Kate as I can.
Ultimately, yes, I think I’ve had the stay at home dad mentality since becoming a dad. While I miss adult interaction on a regular basis, I wouldn’t trade the time I’ve been able to spend with E for anything. I suppose if there was a positive to come from losing my job it would be that.
I suppose this was the long answer to Lins610’s question… the short being, yes, I think I had it in me all along and was just waiting for the opportunity to show off my “Molly Homemaker” skills. Thank you to Lins610 for her question… If you have any other ideas or questions that you’d like my thoughts / opinion on, please feel free to comment here or shoot me a tweet.